This death seems so unfair

Express as much grief as you feel.

Make an effort to adjust to the change.

Assume that you have to help yourself instead of letting time solve all.

Remember that others have experienced grief and sorrow.

Form new relationships and develop new interests.

Talk about your loss to others.

Give emotional support to other members of your family.

Recognize that complete adjustment is never achieved, but pain lessons with time.

Expect your recovery to follow a pattern of "two steps forward and one step backward."

Try to build a new life instead of trying to keep things the same.

Accept the emotional support of others.

Have a meaningful religious faith.

Have close ties with family, relations, and friends.

Accept your sorrow instead of trying to escape from it.

Bereavement St. John

Jesus said, Let the little children come to me ; do not hinder them; the kingdom belongs to such as these. Mark 10:14

Finding your way after your child dies

by Phyllis Vos Wezeman and Kenneth R. Wezeman

The authors’ sensitive reflection on the various occasions that bring grief back to the surface. These times may be birthdays, graduation, or any day that has special meaning to you. They offer rituals, readings, responses and reflections that help you deal with your loss. This book is intended for parents who have experienced the death of a child, whether due to natural causes, accidents, or miscarriage. Readers are reminded that God is with us in every circumstance of life, and that God’s love is a love that will survive any earthly loss.