Returning back to school this fall may be very difficult for your child if you have just experienced a death in the family.

There is sadness about summer vacation coming to an end - but nothing compared to the sadness of starting school after the death of a beloved family member.

Children do not want to be different. They all want to wear the same style of clothing, carry the same type of backpack and notebooks. Children do not like to singled out.

Having a death in the family is certain to make your child feel different. Parents and loved ones need to be prepared for this. If you have experienced a death of the father, mother, sibling or beloved grandparent - there are things you can do to help your child’s transition back to school less painful.

First you must tell the school what has happened. As a family decide what you will tell the teacher, principle, or councilors. Your child may wish to tell the closest friends first, then the rest of the class.

If the school does not know you have had a death in the family your child may be criticized for poor performance in school, or punished for daydreaming.

Other children can be of great support to your child at this time. Never under estimate the ability of a child.